Funny I was lying in the bath taking relief from some hernia pain thinking how happy i was… Yes Happy.
It was then that Forgotten Voice told me again it was time to write about this and how ?
Removing IF from HAPPY enables you more Happiness.
Yes, you may be thinking wtf
I agree… So here we go about how to try and explain what I mean by this.
I’ve been watching the usual xmas films to pass time yesterday, and something within this also sparks what I mean by removing IF.
Yes it is very close to xmas and I imagine that many people(especially kids) will be thinking
‘I will be Happy IF I get the latest Leeds United Kit for Xmas( i will be happy to have this also’-)’
, …. so lets say on xmas day the said child receives the Leeds United Kit, he doesnt really care for the other gifts because he’s happy and he has his brand new Leeds United Kit. Their ‘IF’ has come true. The day is brilliant and they are full of joy and energy around everyone
So lets say the worst happens(lets hope not for Leeds United), and the child does not receive his Leeds United Kit, therefore they are unhappy because their ‘IF’ hasnt come true. The day is dreadful the day is horrible and they are dreadfull to everyone
(I hope your following this)…
Imagine that today we all say to oursleves that we will be happy in our lifes right this very second now ‘only ‘IF’ we have ‘£120,384,342.33’,
and IF we dont have this £120,384,342.33 we will choose to be unhappy in this moment right now, and continue to be so because our IF hasnt happened.
Imagine if (Self Talk otherwise known as- IR, ID, mind chatter, internal soap opera) is saying to ourselves that we choose to be unhappy all the time ‘IF’ we dont have/ do have this – or whatever else we have in our lifes.
Then what are we saying to ourselves all the time, when do we have chance to choose to be happy???
‘IF’ at all times our focus and self talk is putting a decision on why we are happy or not?
Ok I admit, we are only human and we all have emotions, yet in life, ‘IF’ we use ‘IF’ in our everyday dialogue (self talk) as a condition as to why we have something (any emotion) then that is all we are creating, a condition for ourselves to choose what our ‘IF’ condition chooses are our emotion to anything.
Eg: Im driving down the road – I see a man run in front of me and I have to brake
– I can make a choice – I can choose to be angry and unhappy annoyed because the guy ran in front of me because I chose to that condition that a man running in front of me would make me unhappy – The ‘IF’ condition – I choose to be angry and annoyed at everyone around me!
– Or I can just chose to be happy because the guy got safely over the road, it was no stress to brake, and im not annoyed and angry, im not generating that around anyone who may be with me or around me.
When we say to ourselfs – put a condition on how we should feel for no reason apart from an IF – How much time do we spend on this emotion or feeling towards this condition – How much time do we waste rather than just saying to yourself in all circumstances I AM HAPPY.
I am a little at discomfort because of my hernia, yet I am happy because I have warm water and am able to lie down and rest it when I need to… I am not unhappy because of the hernia- If I was choosing to be I would be applying more stress to myself for no reason, wasting my time on unhappiness because the IF statement got a grip of my emotions.
When there is NO ‘IF’ then it is just a case of ‘ I AM HAPPY’
or if you choose to want to be ‘I AM UNHAPPY’?
yet in this case where is the ‘IF’ and the reason of the ‘unhappy’ when you are HAPPY?
Anger & Unhappiness affects your health!
You can Difuse Anger and unhappiness by putting a condition of ‘love’ for everything what you have and have right in this moment in time within . Replace IF with LOVE
Be like Mr The Cat
Be Happy whatever is happening at any moment in anytime, be thankful for what you have and more will come to you. Be happy and you spread happiness around you.
Try smiling at someone you pass in a public place say a train platform where people arent smiling rushing for a train and see how many people smile, and watch the smile spread.
Share ENERGY THAT IS GOOD AROUND US – NOT ANGRY OR BITTER –
REMOVE THE ‘IF’ FROM YOUR CONDITION ON WHY YOU ARE UNHAPPY AND REPLACE IT WITH BEING ‘HAPPY’ RIGHT NOW.
It is xmas after all the time for sharing joy, giving happiness and peace.
Additional text 10/2/2015 –
So how was your xmas & new year?
did you remove the ‘if’ ?
I’ve just come accross this text within an email from that also talks about removing ‘if’
Check this out – with thanks to Veronica @Inner Whispers